Recently I have found myself taking things personally.
X didn’t return my text… Must not care about me anymore. Y’s Facebook status was totally aimed at me. Z was really curt with me today, what did I do to them to deserve that attitude??
Both the good and bad, I was taking personally. I was allowing myself to get upset, excited, disappointed, or smug, based upon other people’s actions and words that I presumed had something to do with me.
I had forgotten that life is not personal.
We’re primed to take things personally. After all, we can only see things from our own perspective—there’s no way for us to know or understand other people’s intentions, thoughts, or maxims. There’s also no way for us to comprehend the sheer magnitude of factors that collide to create the circumstances we operate within.
So given these facts, it seems silly to take things personally, right? Yet it’s so easy to fall into that self-centered or victim mindset. People are not doing things to you. You are not at the center of the events you experience. Actions, words, happenings, etc., are not me nor mine.
So here is a little reminder to myself, and any of you feeling the same way, for the future if/when I start falling back into this self-centered mindset:
It’s not personal.